Complaining and Worrying Points to Integrity

I've always worried. Some of my first memories are of worries. And complaining became a daily practice. Then came chronic anxiety and panic attacks. Shame is fertile ground for anxiety. The trauma of your wholeness being violated in some way can create this kind of inner split. Judgment and criticism set up a division in your cells. Part of you feels wrong and to feel that, needs another part to keep finding things to tell you are wrong. This is the frozen trauma state; it has not been moved to resolution where the split energies can recombine into wholeness. There is a victim and an [...]

What Is Your Painful Relationship Showing You About Love?

"Relationships do not cause pain and unhappiness; they bring out the pain and unhappiness already within you." ~ Eckhart Tolle Truth never creates pain. Pain is resistance. Relationships offer the opportunity for profound healing, but only when you - not you and your partner - but you alone take responsibility for your pain and unhappiness. So he cheated on you, he lied to you, she had an affair - does that mean it's all over? It's not all over until the fat lady sings! But who is this fat lady and what's her song? The 'fat lady' of this opera is the inner work of [...]

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Emotional Healing of Conditioning

A Human Design reading can be a catalytic experience for healing emotionally, physically and spiritually. The purpose of the Three Keys is for you to make choices that bring you closer to your true and authentic Self and heal your emotional conditioning from childhood. How we get conditioned Every day we make decisions, often hundreds of them, based on who we think we need to please in order to protect ourselves from failure, shame and humiliation. This shows up in our lives as the pursuit of perfectionism/never feeling good enough, procrastination and over-committing ourselves. It is a form of personal abuse and does harm us [...]

Easing Through the Phases of Resolution

I've just spend a few weeks dealing with a health challenge that brought back to me all sorts of negative thinking patterns I thought that I'd dumped for good. Well, that's one belief to let go of for a start, that anything needs to be gone for ever, because whenever it cycles around again, it brings up so many judgments about the fact that it's still here. "Oh no, I thought I'd done everything there was to do on this one - I must have failed in some way" is the way my thinking tends to go. So I've observed my process and would like [...]

The Pinch Point

I have found that there are times when I lose contact with the part of me that I know can handle situations competently and learn through my experiences, or be open to someone's expression of discontent with my actions. What I feel at these times in my body is a tense contraction, sometimes almost solid like an obstruction. I call this the Pinch Point (or flinch point as that's what if feels like when you connect with past pain). It is where my flow of creative life energy is literally pinched, like liquid unable to flow past a kink in a pipe, and I know [...]

The Velcro Theory of Attachment

Sometimes it’s really hard to see what we’re attached to. Until it becomes glaringly obvious, usually in some uncomfortable way, through a confrontation or a situation that leaves us feeling an emotional wreck. When we can recover our equilibrium sufficiently to look at what really happened, it’s tempting to blame the other person or people. But we won't ever achieve inner peace and happiness if we attribute the source of our state of mind outside of ourselves. This is where true responsibility is called for, to recognise that we are the creators of our own suffering. Attachments can prevent us appreciating what we see around [...]